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Personal growth uses a variety of approaches from psychotherapy and coaching – but consciously goes beyond most conventional therapies.
The example of fears makes this clear: Fear is initially something completely natural and has secured our survival in many situations. Without fear and dread, we would not exist today.

However, when fears become “self-perpetuating” or escalate into increasingly absurd loops, they can quickly be perceived as a restriction. Psychologically, this is referred to as neurotic anxiety.
Most of the fears we face are such neurotic fears, which our mind and its constantly active processor generate.
An increasing overload of our system and increasingly sophisticated defense mechanisms join the fear.

In severe cases, the fear affects the body and leads to various complaints – from constipation to diarrhea, which are often among the more harmless symptoms.

Psychology and medicine call this “somatization”.

The problem is clear: the fear should go away.

But that would mean that neurotic fear has an existence, is something tangible, like an inflamed appendix. But that is not what fear is – fear has no form or existence, fear is solely the absence of trust.

It’s like darkness: you can’t banish or get rid of darkness, you can only turn on the light.

Classical psychotherapy shows you where the light switch is or where you can find candles. It gives you methods to find access to your lost trust again in moments of fear. Perhaps it also looks at when you lost your trust flashlight and equips you with the latest LED headlamp or charged batteries for your old one.

So far, so good – and at first, all difficulties seem to be resolved.
However, personal growth and so-called “transpersonal” therapy approaches go far beyond that.

As in classical psychotherapy, you will practically learn to make light – there is no difference in this point.

The real difference only begins when all ways to illuminate the darkness fail; when you are trapped in a world of deep darkness. This may sound absurd at first, but look around: so much fear, so much lack, so much darkness.

The light of trust and love cannot lie outside of you in this case, but you will have to find it within you. And because that doesn’t always work, it’s enough to know about this inner light – not from the mind, but every cell in your body remembers: You are this light.