About Rainer

I am probably a dreamer, because to this day I have not given up my belief in love. Even in puberty, I repeatedly threw myself into the confusing maelstrom of romance and magic and was often disappointed.

I had to learn that the world outside of my longing ticks very differently. It is characterized by cultural guidelines, unspoken expectations when dating, countless no-go’s and seemingly clear rules on how a partnership should look and function.

I didn’t want to remain alone with my “crazy ideas”, so I adapted and lived a wide variety of partnerships. Open relationships, but also partnerships that would have fitted the format of a glossy magazine home story. I was last married to Anja for 18 years.

To say it straight away: all partnerships ultimately “failed” because of my biography and my romantic dreams. My life story was shaped by my parents’ cold marriage and domestic violence. My longings for “real” love and romance found no match in a world based on possessiveness and security.

My biggest difficulty in all those years, however, was that I closed my heart after every supposed disappointment and followed in the footsteps of my parents’ calculating love.

With a lot of pain and the courage to admit my feelings, I managed to free myself from the demons of my biography at the age of 64.

I have learned – albeit late – to love and live with an open and vulnerable heart.

Today I am ready to surrender to the romance and magic that I dreamed of as a teenager, and to follow the path of love and clarity despite all doubts.

Rainer Grunert (1958)

Studied business administration and psychology
Founder, management consultant, filmmaker, author, coach and psychotherapist.

Education

1976
Matura (Frankfurt)

1976 – 1983
Apprenticeship as a typesetter (Frankfurt)

1983 – 1986
Studied business administration (Frankfurt)

1986 – 1991
Studied psychology (Berlin)

Additional education and training (in alphabetical order)

• Bioenergetics according to Lowen (Berlin)
• Change Management (Frankfurt)
• Coaching (Cologne)
• De-hypnosis according to Wolinsky (Freiburg)
• Essence work according to Almaas and Faisal (Pettenasco, Cologne)
• Bodywork according to Goralewski (Berlin)
• Body-oriented psychotherapy (Cologne)
• Leadership Coaching (Berlin)
• Men and couples work according to Deida (Boulder CO)
• NLP Master (Cologne)
• Couples therapy according to Bader and Pearson (San Francisco CA)
• Sexual counseling according to the Approche Sexocorporelle (Zurich)
• Systemic family therapy according to Satir (Weinheim)
• Tantra (Frankfurt, Munich, Zurich)
• Behavioral therapy (Berlin)

Career path

1991 – 1993
Technical manager of a printing company (Hamburg)

1993 – 1997
Managing Director and Head of Development of a start-up for software development (Hamburg, Berlin, Frankfurt)

1997 – 2002
Management Consultant in an international management consultancy (Frankfurt)

2002 – 2006
Temporary manager in international companies (Frankfurt, Munich, Basel, Zurich)

Since 2007
Self-employed as a coach and consultant (Zurich)

Publications

2008 Suffering or Passion (Innenwelt Verlag)

2009 How to achieve happiness without a wish (Windpferd Verlag)

2009 Vision of a fair economic order (Windpferd Verlag)