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The problem isn’t the selection, but what unconsciously plays a part. We believe we choose freely – yet we notice: it repeats itself. Similar encounters, similar disappointments.

What guides your gaze? What holds you back?
If you want to find out what makes genuine connection difficult – and how you can open yourself more to intimacy – we would be happy to accompany you on this path.

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The Agony of Choice

Few people want to remain alone their entire lives. Sooner or later, a longing for a kindred spirit grows in most – for intimacy, connection, a counterpart.

In the past, couples were introduced to each other, encounters were arranged – by family, the village, or the social environment. Then came the era of self-determination: people met through sports, while traveling, at parties, or in everyday life. Today, many rely on dating apps and matchmaking services – and on the promise that algorithms know who is right for us.

The first contact often remains superficial. It takes courage to truly show oneself – with what moves us, but also with what makes us vulnerable. But the greater the apparent choice, the faster the scrolling continues. Intimacy becomes a challenge in a world focused on speed and optimization.

The world of possibilities seems limitless. Yet many ask themselves: Why do I always end up with the same type of person? Why do I attract exactly what I wanted to avoid?

The Unconscious Pattern of Attraction

If I am used to disappointments, I will attract them—not because I want to, but because I unconsciously expect them.
If I am used to being the fifth wheel, I will often find myself in relationships where I take on the role of the second woman or second man.
And if I find it difficult to commit and take a risk, I will often be caught between several people—torn, unable to decide.
This sounds simple and logical, yet precisely these hindering attachment patterns accompany many for years. However, it could be enough to broaden one’s perspective, look beyond the previous pattern of attraction—and new possibilities can open up.

Since the entire partner search is an unconscious process, many, despite their best intentions, repeatedly fall back into old patterns and create new disappointments.
Thus, they confirm to themselves again: It was the wrong person again, they weren’t truly recognized, and something about them doesn’t seem lovable.

Conscious Change

Individual coaching supports you in understanding your inner relationship patterns – and consciously changing them.
Behind recurring conflicts or attachment dynamics are usually early experiences and unconscious protective strategies.
In coaching, we make these patterns visible. This way, you can recognize what has shaped you so far – and begin to free yourself from it.
Self-confidence, emotional self-regulation, and the ability to show yourself authentically are central to this.